John B's story
Walsall, West Midlands. UK
In 2000, I met who I truly believed was my soul mate: a woman from the Philippines, a devoted Christian, with a firm belief in family values. She was my ideal.
In 2002, after several visits and getting to know each other well, we married in Davao City, the Philippines. In 2004, she came to this country, we settled in to our new home there was love, laughter, cuddles and conversation. In 2005, we had a son, John Michael. He was my greatest wish come true, and the biggest thrill in my life; I could not envisage a single day without him, and every day I could not wait to get home to be with him. From the first month of John's arrival, we started sending money to the Philippines to support her family and invest in a future for ourselves (a palm tree plantation) .We agreed that we would eventually go back to the Philippines to live. But all this went sour not long after she gained her UK citizenship.
In 2009, she became demanding, threatening and even aggressive, and by using our son to manipulate me into sending increasing amounts of money to the Philippines, the arguments escalated to a point where I could no longer cope with the stress; it affected my job, my life, and my purpose.
In 2008, she took a bank loan for £7,500, which made our own finances suffer. This went to the Philippines, (she says for our future). In February of 2011, she left the marital home and moved in with another man. Since then I have not seen my son due to her false allegations of "unreasonable behaviour." I have recently gone through a PSYCHOLOGICAL THERAPY COURSE FOR MENTAL CRUELTY. I no longer see my son, and this hurts too much. Every day is the same: I wake up crying, I go to sleep crying. I know she never intended to stay married. Now all I do is grieve. I am 56 years old now. Although when we first met my age did not matter, now she refers to me as THE GULLIBLE OLD GIT. The real purpose of this is for her to keep my investment in the land in the Philippines. And of course the benefit of her family. And effecting this outcome by using false allegations of domestic violence. The main victim in all of this is a young boy who has been separated from his father, and all for the sake of a visa, and financial gain.
I have been victimised by this woman and the courts since February of 2011. I have suffered imprisonment for my emails begging her to tell the truth, but she will not speak up, for fear of reprisals by the court system. How many more years must I wait for a remedy? How many petitions must I continue to sign? How many more internet sites must I join to make my voice heard? How many letters must I write to my MP? How many voices does it take for the British Government to take up this cause?
The courts took her words (on paper) as gospel, they erred on the side of caution, imposed a non-molestation order , and refused to accept my argument that this woman intentionally engaged in a fake marriage for the purpose of financial gain. The court will not hear my protests against her lies, and non-evidenced allegations.
Fraud is a crime…
Marriage is not an immigration deal...
A child should never be used as a weapon.
RECIPE FOR DECEPTION:
1. Fall in love.
2. Secure a visa.
3. Talk him into supporting your overseas family.
4. Leave him for another man.
5. Claim abuse.
6. Take away his child.
