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Did someone forget to tell the Family Court the percentages regarding troubled kids when you remove a parent? I received custody of my 1-year-old daughter. I am the dad. What I didn't know was that instead of this being the end of the war, it was only the beginning. In granting me custody the court noted that I would be the better choice to facilitate a relationship with the other parent. Of course they were right and I did. But for the next 13 years my ex continually filed pertition after petition and had us in court continually. For no more than 2 years combined was there ever nothing pending against me court. I kept shooting off flares showing the alienating tactics she was doing and of course having to prove time and time again that her attacks designed to show that I was not facilitating a good relationship with her were false. Over and over and over again I did this and each time I was able to make my case. But each time the court also awarded my ex

a little bit more.

Then, 5 years ago, my ex filed another petition. This petition has been pending for 5 years with no ruling. During this time, I bent over backwards trying to come up with a peaceful solution. But as everyone who is dealing with an alienator knows, there is no way to reach a peaceful solution. Shortly before the matter was to come to trial I got unloaded on from another source. I was diagnosed with cancer. Then I made the mistake of letting down my guard. With the goal of resolving this thing once and for all ..... and peacefully, I fired my attorney who only wanted to fight. I asked the court to appoint a counselor and a GAL. Mistake number 2 and 3. In a nutshell, the counselor and GAL labeled me before they ever talked to me. The counselor instructed me to take actions that would leave most parents shaking their heads, such as to let my daughter go to the mall any time she wanted. The counselor threatened me saying unequivocally that I needed her and that I had better do exactly as she said. Well, I stuck to my good parenting guns and she delivered on her promise. She wrote a fictitious report to the judge and my daughter was removed from me.

Now, well into the $200,000 court debt and also fighting cancer I had no choice but to disassociate myself from the battle and fight the cancer. I am happy to report I have beaten the cancer. During this time, my lovely ex told the court that I had abandoned my daughter and that her new husband should be allowed to adopt my daughter. My family tried to send her a Christmas picture and my ex consequently filed contempt of court charges against me. And now that I have recovered, the court is ordering to see my cancer medical records. People, my daughter and I have a great relationship. I could prove this but no one wants to see the well-document picture journal I kept of just about everything we did together for 12 years. Rather, the court is laughing me out of the court room asking me in essence, 'Why does your daughter say she hates you and doesn't want anything to do with you?' The answer is obvious, but they refuse to even explore it. I am confident my daughter will be back. But how I approach the matter from here I do not know.

To be continued ........